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THIS IS THE FUCKING BEST.

Reblog this shit! Make it known.

Oh boy. I’m at the age where I still remember what teenage angst felt like, but have already risen above it, and let me just say, the only thing that’s bullshit about the above things is the notion of blowing things out of proportion.

>cries every night
Not gonna say it deserves no sympathy. Hell, I’ve been there. But it takes willpower, not coddling, to deal with it effectively.

>feels worthless (impliedly because of a break-up)
Relationships are not the goddamn Holy Grail, and people need to stop treating it as such. It may fulfill an aspect of one’s life, but making one’s whole life revolve around chasing love is downright retarded. And again, teaching that to teens would help far more than coddling.

>cuts himself
Oh boy, cutting. I refuse to see that as anything but attention-whoring. If one actually intended to destroy themselves, they’d strike deep, fatal wounds, not shallow nicks. It’s nothing more but a “people don’t notice my suffering, maybe if it shows on my body, they will” approach, a really misguided call for attention. And they need to be taught why it’s bullshit instead of treating it as a legitimate thing.

>starves herself
Yet again, the key is education instead of acceptance and encouragement of their misguided actions. Nobody is born with an ingrained hatred of self, it’s all learnt behavior. And yes, it IS society’s fault. However, in truth, society isn’t quite as evil as it seems. People have a strange tendency to believe negative judgment more readily than positive (ostensibly because a compliment can be empty flattery; what they don’t seem to realize is that insults and mockery can be just as empty as well), while in fact, people’s preferences are as various as people themselves are, so regardless of what you are like, some will love you and some will hate you. Realize this, and self-esteem issues revolving around others’ judgment become nonexistent.

>feels hopeless
Perhaps the only legitimate complaint on this list, but even then, seemingly hopeless situations are seldom actually hopeless. The loss of hope blinds one to potential solutions, as they’re too busy wallowing in self-pity to give said solutions enough thought. So while the problem may seem real, more often than not it’s exacerbated by one’s own negative mentality, while in truth it’s much less serious.

EDIT: Also, gotta love the recent trend of these kinda ads using gratuitous swearing to seem more edgy and cool. Like a spiritual successor to the infamous “fuck hate” campaign. It just screams “oh look at us, we’re cussing, so we must be spittin’ the cold hard truth”, which is frankly ridiculously lame.

Hoo, boy. Let’s get started.

Not gonna say it deserves no sympathy. Hell, I’ve been there. But it takes willpower, not coddling, to deal with it effectively.

Since this video is about mental health, it’s implied that these teens suffer from mental illnesses. This particular one seems to be about depression. Since I myself suffer from depression, I can tell you with one hundred percent certainty that “willpower” is not the way to deal with depression. Depression is not cured by willpower or positive thinking or “looking on the bright side” or “perking up.” It’s an illness of the mind just like diabetes or cancer is an illness of the body.

Relationships are not the goddamn Holy Grail, and people need to stop treating it as such. It may fulfill an aspect of one’s life, but making one’s whole life revolve around chasing love is downright retarded. And again, teaching that to teens would help far more than coddling.

I actually read this as being from an abusive relationship, rather than a normal relationship. Normal relationships should not make you feel worthless, even when they’ve ended. Again, something that should probably be handled by a psychiatrist, not somebody telling her how silly she’s being and how relationships aren’t the Holy Grail.

Oh boy, cutting. I refuse to see that as anything but attention-whoring. If one actually intended to destroy themselves, they’d strike deep, fatal wounds, not shallow nicks. It’s nothing more but a “people don’t notice my suffering, maybe if it shows on my body, they will” approach, a really misguided call for attention. And they need to be taught why it’s bullshit instead of treating it as a legitimate thing.

Okay, this point? This is where you stopped simply being full of shit and started being actively harmful. The compulsion to harm oneself is not actually an illness but a symptom of one (most often of borderline personality disorder, but also of depression and anxiety disorders, as well as schizophrenia). Look at it this way: somebody has a horrible case of the stomach flu. What this paragraph is doing is looking at that person and going, “God, why are you throwing up all the time? It’s such a cry for attention, you attention whore.” Self-harm isn’t dealt with by putting people down about it; it’s dealt with by getting them actual medical attention to figure out why they feel such a compulsion and how to fix it.

The problem with mental illness is that when somebody says, “Show me where it hurts/what’s physically wrong/what organ isn’t working,” they can’t. It’s socially accepted to be ill or injured in any other organ except the brain.

Yet again, the key is education instead of acceptance and encouragement of their misguided actions. Nobody is born with an ingrained hatred of self, it’s all learnt behavior. And yes, it IS society’s fault. However, in truth, society isn’t quite as evil as it seems. People have a strange tendency to believe negative judgment more readily than positive (ostensibly because a compliment can be empty flattery; what they don’t seem to realize is that insults and mockery can be just as empty as well), while in fact, people’s preferences are as various as people themselves are, so regardless of what you are like, some will love you and some will hate you. Realize this, and self-esteem issues revolving around others’ judgment become nonexistent.

This is all well and good in theory — just teach children not to worry about what others think, then everything will be okay! Except we’re social animals. Teens worry about what their peers think of them, and no quick fix is going to solve it.

Anorexia nervosa is a disorder. Disorders are not just quirky little ideas floating around in somebody’s head; they’re not moods that strike every so often. Disorders can’t be dismissed by telling the sufferer that they’re wrong or by waving it away and just telling them to just eat, you’ll be better! Again, the solution isn’t something you can just do; it requires people who know what the hell they’re doing.

Perhaps the only legitimate complaint on this list, but even then, seemingly hopeless situations are seldom actually hopeless. The loss of hope blinds one to potential solutions, as they’re too busy wallowing in self-pity to give said solutions enough thought. So while the problem may seem real, more often than not it’s exacerbated by one’s own negative mentality, while in truth it’s much less serious.

Congratulations! You just described an anxiety disorder!

Again, the problem with disorders is this: when you typed in your reblog and posted it, you probably felt pretty good about yourself. You probably thought, “There! I’ve helped somebody somewhere see that their way of thinking was just backward! Now they’ll be better for it, after listening to my great advice!”

You were wrong.

What you really did was tell that person with an anxiety disorder that the problem is actually an inherent part of them. People with anxiety disorders (such as social anxiety, from which I personally suffer) know that the problem is small. They know that they shouldn’t be freaking out over it. Does that stop their adrenaline from rushing, their heart from racing, the awful pukey feeling from coming up, or the way their thoughts race so fast they can’t keep up with them? Nope.

Because anxiety disorders, like all disorders, are not just some frame of mind; they’re the brain being ill, with no conscious decision to be so. When a machine has a loose wire, do you stand back and look at it, saying, “Fix yourself. Why can’t you just put that wire back? You’re so useless.”

No? That’s probably because you can see the loose wire. Brains are exactly like that, except you can’t see the wires. They’re hidden within chemicals and neurons and each machine is completely unique. Odds are you’re not equipped or capable enough to fix them. 

Mental health professionals, on the other hand, train their entire adult lives to be able to diagnose and fix the problem instead of just sitting around telling them to stop being such attention whores, stop caring what other people think, stop being such a baby and see that the problem isn’t so big.

If somebody has a broken leg, do you try to tell them to fix it by positive thinking? Nope.

So for everyone’s sake, stand back, junior, and let the professionals do their work: saving lives.

Reblogging for the stellar take down. And also, just….okay, this bullshit: 

“Oh boy, cutting. I refuse to see that as anything but attention-whoring. If one actually intended to destroy themselves, they’d strike deep, fatal wounds, not shallow nicks. It’s nothing more but a “people don’t notice my suffering, maybe if it shows on my body, they will” approach, a really misguided call for attention. And they need to be taught why it’s bullshit instead of treating it as a legitimate thing.”

Fuck you. Fuck you for fucking ever. You clearly understand fuck-all about mental illness in general and you obviously don’t fucking understand self-harm.

I cut. I’ve struggled with going in and out of phases of depression and self-harm for over 8 fucking years now. And you fucking sit there and dare to call it “attention-whoring”. Do you understand the lengths I’ve gone to to hide my scars? To hide the fresh cuts? The anxiety I felt wearing a shorter dress that might expose my fucked up thighs? Do you understand the burden of keeping it a secret from everyone, of feeling the shame whenever I look at what I did to yourself?

Do you fucking understand that I don’t cut just “for attention”. I compulsively cut because sometimes when I am overwhelmed, when I am on the bring of an anxiety attack, when my emotions (which I sometimes cannot control because I am fucking mentally ill) are taking over the cutting is the only thing that brings me back down.

Do you understand that it is a maladaptive coping mechanism that has become a compulsion for me and many other mentally ill people. And you fucking sit there and try to say that cutting is attention-whoring. AND EVEN IF IT WAS. Even if someone does cut for attention, it’s still maladaptive and that person still needs help.

So shut your fucking mouth, you ignorant douchebag. You refuse to see a symptom of my mental illness as anything other than “attention-whoring”? Well, I fucking refuse to believe that you give two shits about anyone else. 

EDIT: And just to elaborate more on how fucking misinformed and ignorant this person is: cutting is not about “destroying yourself”. In general, cutting and other forms of self-harm are not about trying to commit suicide. It’s about anxiety and compulsions (for me). Read a fucking book, asshole. 

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